War of the Words

You know what sucks? Human interaction. And I don't mean that in an antisocial kind of way. Because for goodness sake, I do love talking to people and expressing myself with someone else about my thoughts, especially if it is in a way that enriches both of our minds. I´m talking about real serious human interactions, like when you have to act formal for an interview, or talking with a friend about a problem that you have or expressing real feelings to another person. Why does it seem like every single thing that comes out of our mouth needs to be meticulously planned in order to convey exactly what we want to say? It´s as if in our current world, it is completely necessary to have an eloquent way of talking in order for everyone to take you seriously.

Why is that? I mean, I could have something really important, deep and meaningful to say, but that won't matter shit if I don't express it with the correct words arranged in the right order. And every time we open our mouths to talk, we make ourselves vulnerable; we allow for other people to start judging us and to keep doing it once we stopped talking and we just sit there waiting to see if they show their approval or despise. Why is it that we can't just talk with no fear and with no risk of our image being scorched forever in the fire of a bad usage of words ?

Our current society

I think I know why, it's because we are susceptible to first impressions, we don´t like to give extra thought to what we are hearing. We want to feel safe in the second we give anyone some of our precious time and allow them to speak, so we immediately start hoping for this person to be extremely illustrated in the art of speaking to feel as if this person might have something to say, and that's wrong. I´ve always thought that it doesn't matter who says what or how he says it; all that is really important is why he says it and how he backs it up. I could say that I believe that chairs will become the next superior species of the planet during the next 100 years, and I could say it with a million of grammatical errors, but all that matters is what evidence I have to back up my point and why I believe the way I do.

Of course, that is the last thing people would bother to notice, if they even do it at all. We are superficial, and we will always pay attention to the less meaningful stuff as long as it looks pretty and flashy. And this isn't something rare, it happens more often than you might think. In an ideal world, we would just express ourselves and people will listen to arguments and facts instead of how smooth a voice might be or how rapidly a tongue can say fancy words. And it just sucks that instead of that, we have to carry with a checklist of requirements every time we open our mouths to talk.

More importantly, sometimes people might actually pay attention to you but won´t be actually listening. Like, if I come over to a girl and make a compliment that I think she looks lovely today, she might think I'm just a guy trying to hit on her; or if I say that I liked a movie that critics hated, people will assume I'm just trying to be a different for the sake of being different. So now, we find the problem that we also have to look out for what other people might interpret out of what one is trying to say.

Yeah, that example, the one with the girl thinking I was hitting on her, it happened. And people still ask me why the fuck do I choose to eat on a corner.

The sad thing is that I can't really blame anyone for this (not that looking for someone to blame would make a difference). Because, when you really come to think about it, to the eyes of the girl, maybe a dozen other guys have told her a similar compliment but with actual dirty intentions, or someone making a comment against a popular belief might actually be just and attention seeker. It would be naive of me to expect from everyone to believe what they hear from other people all the time when in reality there is people willing to take advantage of it. Again, I can't pretend like we live in an ideal world.

But that doesn't mean that we should not pay attention to this, nor that we should just accept it as a reality and never try to do anything about it. People can and should be doing something to correct this. Why? Because when you think about, what are we as a society if not a bunch of mouths? I mean, you will never be able to tap into my head and see things from my perspective, the same way I wouldn´t be able to tap into yours.

The only way in which we can progress and share information and knowledge is by communicating, that is all we have outside our minds: words coming out of mouths of other people. We were born too late to explore this world and to soon to explore the cosmos. Words and thoughts are what drive our current society, they are what we can explore. A critical way of thinking is our New World map to be filled, and it starts from small acts amongst ourselves.

And before you even dare to fucking say it: I'm not a special snowflake, it is not like I'm above all of this. I am simply stating the facts and I´m just as rotten as everyone else in this sense. The person with the real power here, is you. Yes you. You modest and humble reader who made it this far into the post, don´t you realize that by judging someone by the way they speak instead of actually listening to what they have to add to the conversation, you are promoting more idiotic but pretty content in people's minds to exist; don't you realize that by either not trusting in someone else's comment or by taking advantage of the trust of others you are preventing our generation from filling our New World Map. Like I said change starts from small acts. But I mean, what gives, I´m sure people are not even reading this and are more than likely being bothered by the million grammatical mistakes in the post, just fucking kill me already.

It is funny, when I started writing this I was planning on talking more about how awkward it is to express feelings and to open yourself to other people and it turned into this weird rant about human words and conversations, but that doesn't make any of my points less valid. I guess it only comes to show how tired my mind is at this particular moment. By the way, in case you were wondering, yes, all of what I say can also be applied to how we sometimes give more credit to people with pretty faces than to those who actually have a valid point, but I'm honestly exhausted right now and that is a topic that deserves a whole much more in depth analysis than this, so I´ll save it for another time.

All I'm saying is that maybe we should try giving some thought to what other people say and actually trust on their comments, therefore this people will also feel more confident to open their mouth and we would have much richer conversations about much deeper subjects about life, about love about what makes us human, about the best type of bread for sandwich (which if you think it´s white bread just fucking leave please and never come back). I don't even know what I'm saying anymore, and I'm ending the post right here